::: ABHEDA TATTVA :::

The world is shrinking day by day courtesy the brilliant advancement of technology. We have discovered our long lost friends and relatives with whom we lost touch. People who were a wonderful part of our childhood and growing up years. Happy to re-bond? Yes. Have the time? No. You are in a perennial race and you always are running out of time. Today's world operates with rules of it's own. Rules of a different kind that force you to comply and you do so willingly to step up and keep pace. Just when you think you have understood it, the dynamics change and so you force yourself to adapt once again forgetting that you have your own little world that needs you and there is an "I" too. You keep thinking that you are doing it for them, for you but NO, this is not true.  There was a time when we used to be strongly bonded in real and not via devices and gadgets. The montages of these random memories always evoke a genuine smile in your face. Why then are you letti...

As much as I did not want to I had to pick my bags again to relocate to a new abode; I had to do it. Work affairs..!! The only thing that excited me was that I was to go through the phase of being a stranger in an unknown city who did not know what was to unfold before her and for the fact that I could explore newer horizons. When I landed in this city, the first thing I did was inhale the air and let it sensitize me. I emptied my mind to make room for the new thoughts and feelings. I felt good then..!! I had to rush through the first few days as I had to find an accommodation, fix a convenient route to office, arrange for my meals and step up to speed at work. None of my so called friends and colleagues offered to guide me through let alone help inspite of an earnest request. The first dent was indented with the people mentalities here..!! Is it so difficult to offer help to someone in distress..??!! To add to it, there was the daily dose of power cuts for close to 4-5 hour...

"What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from." - T. S. Eliot The elements that had given shape to my life and  to which I had committed my all seem  insignificant now. Everything around appears so  fragile including relationships. Things change,  people leave. With the passage of time  everything that made sense in the past seem  derisory in their present form. Life's contrariness beguiles me. As I attempt to make sense in repose, the only  thing that strikes me is that there is something  wrong with reality. Is this an irreversible  phenomenon?  Today, I have reached a point where I question  everything. I seek answers and I seek them  aggressively. Eventually, life has to make  sense. Things have to fall in place. That's what  I am told..!! I definitely cannot reach the end  of my existential rope in this note without ...

My little brother met was on his way to work when he met with a a major road accident in 2007. He wasn't at fault. He had to undergo 9 major operations and lived in the hospital for over a year. His entire life flew off the handle with the severe damage to his leg, his mental trauma and agony of his girl friend ditching him and a bleak future that appeared like a horizon. In adversity aka tragedy, he realized whom he could count on in life. Learning for him but what sense of timing, eh..??!! This was just one part. It is rightly said when there is a hospital emergency in the house, it is the family that suffers most. Relentless efforts by my aged mom and me helped salvage the situation. The outflow for his recovery and recuperation was so much that one point, I, thought  I was alive and earning only to foot the hospital bills. To say our emotional life was chaotic would be a classic understatement. Through the endless dark hours, we were... awed, stricken, diffident n...

What kind of ecosystem are we living in today? Everything is so superficial and artificial.The world is rife with rules of the jungle. We spend millions of dollars trying to find out life in another planet and we spend two times the amount killing life on this planet. What are we trying to prove? Relations are formed with the blink of eye and called off within nanoseconds of dissent. Huh..?? It is not just about man and woman relations, it's about all of them - Parents, Siblings, Relative, Friends, everything. The zooming technology that has wrapped us in it's little finger is making life insane. Sanity has been redefined or best omitted. Reality-checks have taken flight to John Galt's world. Peer pressures. People pressures. Society pressures. Status pressures. Pressures to keep up with anything and everything that is launched on a daily basis. The Technology which brought us all close in its inception has now become the devil by killing the human touch. We don't talk...

For the first time in my life; I uprooted myself from my homeground of 3+ decades and moved to another city to pursue work opportunity. Little did I know that my lifespan was only of 5 months in this unknown city. Uprooting myself for the first time was an experience in itself juxtaposed with so many cluttered thoughts that I had to sieve them all to reach its simplicity base. Once, clear, I packed up and moved on and did not look back. It did not end there. The spirit of my homeground had accompanied me. Everywhere there in the unknown city, I looked for a spirit or shade of my home ground but found none. The city had a mind and code of its own and was unwelcoming in every aspect. Nature always conspired to give me signals that I " UnBelonged " here. I acknowledged them, time to time but I did not want to give-in before I gave my whole to it.  I paused my personal expectations from this place. Emotions locked; I nose dived at work from day one as I had taken my dec...

I always longed to know and feel how it felt like to be a stranger in an unknown city. My wish was granted when I got an opportunity that forced me to relocate to a city, I had never visited before. But what unfolded was totally unexpected..!!  Having been bred in a city that is a destination dream for millions of people; the city had given me a lot. I believe somewhere during my lifetime, the city became a part of me; something that I never realized before. Stark realization, must say..!!  The pangs crept in when I had to pack and had to decide what I would take with me and what I would leave behind while moving to my new place of abode. Suddenly, I found myself caught in the midst of nowhere. In the last few years, I had moments where I thought, I was done to death with this city and had nothing left but this was not how I felt now..!! After endless conversations with my inner self; I realized it was only memories that I could take with me and nothing else. Wha...

Life has been a blend of the good and bad.  I let the events in my life shape me which I shouldn't have allowed in the first place. My life began and ended with the responsibilities life bestowed on me. I don't know when making both the ends meet and keeping everyone around me happy became the sole purpose of my life. I valued certain relations far more than they deserved to such an extent that I did not value my own existence. I am not an anti social person but somewhere when the tide turned tough, I found respite in the confines of solitude. I don't exactly remember when and how I had become an observer outside my core and watched life pass by. Had it not been for a recent spate of incidents that shook me vigorously and forced me to rethink on all aspects of my life, I would have continued remaining an empty and hollow person that I had turned out to be.  Sometimes I guess you only have to take a step back and realize what's important in your life, what yo...

I believe most of us (in our present generation) have realized that we have lost the real meaning of life and live a subservient or non-existent life with money being the controller of our life. Materialistic wants have become our latest obsession in addition to keeping pace with possessing everything that is being invented and marketed without really thinking twice whether we need it or no and to top it, we want to own it before the rest do! What are we trying to achieve by doing so..??  We all want to lead a secure life. But it is also important that we know how much are we willing to sacrifice for the comforts that money can buy. While the uphill journey of minting money is an ego booster; the downhill journey is a game changer for it is here that you learn who you really are..!! Life isn’t about money alone. it is also about the people in your life. But, again, when you've people in your life, you've their responsibilities to cater to and with the responsibilities...

What kind of world are we living in today..??!! It is more of illusion with a liberal dose of reality.  The mind creates a world of illusion. Once this is done, our thoughts change to adapt to this illusion and accept it  but what we forget is that reality resides within us and hence we start experiencing the conflicts that eventually becomes exacting on us. Even though, the  abstraction of illusion is only a fragment of our mind, it has an overpowering control on us since we let it handle, the handle bar of our life.  The World Wide Web has dwarfed the world. Google has an answer to almost everything. Today, anything and everything is within our possible reach from any corner of the world. Gadgets control our life and seem to extract from all of us, our time and money to such an extent that we, practically, live as an asocial in an e-World today. This world has undoubtedly reconnected us with old friends and...

The word 'Surrender' has many negative connotations equated with defeat, weakness and failure but in its true essence and form it also means "Being One with the Unknown Source" followed by absolute fulfillment. There are 3 choices that is granted to us in our lifetime: Give Up, Give In or Give it your all. If things don't get right, even after exacting yourself by giving it your all then accept the situation. Get into the flow. All along never think of surrendering as giving up. To surrender means to yield, to concede to the way things are and to give way to something else without forcing it to happen our way.  Giving up is entirely different ball game; it means to quit, to stop and to resign yourself to the idea that something is just not going to happen.You're not walking that path again, so, don't look back for all that's to happen with you, lies ahead of you..!! We are perpetually at WAR with Life in all walks of Life. While living under the ...

Popular belief is that only the spoken Words are heard but if you really want to increase the effectiveness of your voice then Silence is the most powerful tool..!! As Margaret Weis rightfully says “Words can never fully say what we want them to say, for they fumble, stammer, and break the best porcelain. The best one can hope for is to find along the way someone to share the path, content to walk in silence, for the heart communes best when it does not try to speak.” More often we expect from the ones who matter to us a lot, to say it in Words what they mean to say just because we want to "hear" them for we believe that these words transform to feelings but in reality it is the profound enigmatic Silence in the company of true love and concern that evokes in us the feelings we so much yearn for. Only after one has used words as a medium and experienced it's limited power is one truly ready to experience and appreciate the unlimited power of silence. It takes a lo...

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in the strength of its bond. The base premise of every relation is trust. Its easy to begin with trust but maintaining it at the same wavelength calls in for a lot of understanding, daunting unwavering will, continual transparency and  unconditional belief. When someone with whom you  connect and forge a relation gives you his/her trust,  and you accept it, then it is your sacred duty to  preserve the sanctity of the relation by not breaking  the trust. Again, trust is not a single lane; its a  highway and needs to be felt and maintained either  side.  Be wary of whom you choose. Its a melee of people out there and not everyone are genuine. Sift the real from the fraudulent. Some fake people get into a relation and win your trust not because they are fond of you or value you; its just that they are curious to know more ab...

To the extent to which a man is rational, life is the premise directing his actions. To the extent to which he is irrational, the premise directing his actions is death. ~ Ayn Rand Gone are the days of bliss of us being young and innocent; where we day dreamed of life without pain, without fear, without loss. With the growing years, we transformed to become individuals who we are today but in its true essence we are a far cry, a distinct identity of our former younger self. Sometimes it's tiring to be always strong in this game called life. One might conceal it by masking it externally but what about the lava erupting within you? Somewhere, the limits need to be drawn. Was the transformation a must? YES. That's the rule of the realm we live in but how much of change should we allow to permeate within us? Agreed, change is the only constant in all our lives but changing our individuality to adapt to it constantly is not a way to handle change. We have to put on a period of ...

Ralph Martson, once said "Just imagine the incredible power of being able to say "I can" when everyone else is saying I can't.'" How true is this? Have you felt a whole new world opening for you the moment you "I can". Your confidence with soar high your spirits, your mind will explore the uninitiated and you'll have plethora of options before your eyes to take your pick on how you want to deal with the challenge or task. CONFIDENCE SELLS and it has amazing contagious power. People believe in those who believe in themselves. No one wants to be stuck in a room with other people who feel like they don't deserve to be there. Stop wondering if you're good enough. Know you are, and behave accordingly. Put in your best always. Pluck out the weeds from your road to achievement and pause, assimilate before taking critical decisions. Rushing into any situation is highly detrimental, so avoid it as much as you can. It will be an exact...

Life's journey is made of many sojourns. While some are big, some are small. This journey is accomplished with many people who come across as travelers in our lives but some last life long. As we grow, we know we need more of such real lasting ones to make our journey more meaningful as life when lived alone often leads to sadness, loneliness and melancholy but when lived in the company of anam cara's often turns out to be joyous as happy times get multiplied and testing times are divided and feel less harsh. What happens when suddenly in your life, you feel as if you've been hit by a whirlwind and someone known feels like an unknown ..?? No matter what you cannot relate with that person now the way you did earlier. Life comes to a standstill momentarily till you're able to collect yourself and figure out what went wrong in the relation. How did it turn sour? How did the bridges turn into gaps and further into chasms? How come you never saw the storm coming and ...

Sometimes life writes stories that nobody could imagine. Years back, I set on a quest to find out my calling in life. That further led to defining the "I" in me. Till  then, I used to always say to the people around me that I am  destiny's favorite child, thanks to the trials n'  tribulations I had to go through from a very young age. After a lot of soul searching and introspection; I now  define myself as under: This is ME rebel, thinker, realistic, passionate, emotional soul!! I AM a soul in search of her calling, a professional in pursuit of her goal, a heart seeking it's own realm n' pristine love, a child-woman yearning to break FREE..!! Will I ever get to be all of it or is it just a fragment  of my wild imagination where I am demanding too much  life..?? How often and for how long has such similar  thought crossed your mind..?? I am certain, I am not the  lone one longing for such simplicity from life tha...

“It's hard to determine where to draw the line between  being nice and not hurting people's feelings, and  standing up for what you believe.” It was a very recent experience when I landed in a similar situation and realized that such, too, could be  the case that life could dish out to you. My only best friend  with whom I share my life's one of finest relation on the basis of friendship based on  the premise that we would be there for each other  come what the situation be took me through it. In a platonic relation all  you seek is time and nothing else. Not the clocked and  timed ones but the once in a while kinds where you live  in a world of your own catching up on each other and  you're in a "ignore" mode with regards to the world and just spend quality time with each other. All  was fine till one day, a span of time ear marked as such by him alone (a genuine surprise for me), got  traded for a business d...

"If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.. " Firstly, set yourself free; no matter what rules surround you. If you find them tolerable, tolerate them; if you find them too obnoxious, break them. Realize that you're free because you are aware that you alone are morally responsible for everything you do. With some people you spend time; with others you invest it. Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right kind of people. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. Never rely entirely on the stats for most of them are created on the spur of the moment and, also, do not take serendipity seriously till you have vetted it yourself. Just believe in your capabilities and surge a...

Why is it that a particular ambition or relation or venture or association becomes so mission critical in our life that we cling on it as if it were a life savior and tend to collapse within should the endeavor never take off or goes kaput in between? Why do we let it affect us so much that we fail to recognize the pleasant things that life has to offer us at that point and time and yet choose to wallow in self pity and get warped in it? Momentary withdrawal is understood for it is a part and parcel of human life but why do we take permanent decisions on temporary situations? Always remember, success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. Whenever you're in conflict with anything or anyone in life, there is one factor that can make the difference to sabotaging the situation. That factor is attitude. No matter how far you've gone; you can always turn around. Handle the situation precariously and you've let the situation slip outta your h...