Monday, October 1, 2012

At what point is enough, enough?!

To the extent to which a man is rational, life is the premise directing his actions. To the extent to which he is irrational, the premise directing his actions is death.
~ Ayn Rand

Gone are the days of bliss of us being young and innocent; where we day dreamed of life without pain, without fear, without loss. With the growing years, we transformed to become individuals who we are today but in its true essence we are a far cry, a distinct identity of our former younger self. Sometimes it's tiring to be always strong in this game called life. One might conceal it by masking it externally but what about the lava erupting within you? Somewhere, the limits need to be drawn. Was the transformation a must? YES. That's the rule of the realm we live in but how much of change should we allow to permeate within us? Agreed, change is the only constant in all our lives but changing our individuality to adapt to it constantly is not a way to handle change. We have to put on a period of finality to it else one day we will not be able to identify with our own reflection. Life can be compared to an iron, no one can destroy it but it's own rust can likewise it's only us, our mind sets and actions that can destroy us; nothing else can. Easier said than done, YES. But, we all have to learn this art at self control at some point of our life. Adapting to changes is an altogether different ball game but to change ourselves for it forever is detrimental for at the end we will fail to "define the "I"" in us at the end of our lifetime.

So, at what point is enough, enough?

I don't stop when I'm tired, I always stop when I've given in my best and I'm done. Period. There's no point wishing and hoping when none of your instincts support it. At such times, just pause wherever you're and leave it to time and let whatever happen, happen just on its own and deal with the outcome as and when you've to. Why complicate life on our own when there are so many other things calling for your attention in this roller coaster ride of life..?!

When you feel, you've done your able best and nothing can be done beyond and all your dreams have turned to dust... VACUUM..!!

As O.R. Melling, says "When you come to the edge of all, you will either have ground to stand on, or you will be given wings to fly" and if nothing amongst the two happens; its time to start afresh on a new path and change course altogether.

You are who you believe you are in life; there are no two thoughts to it..!! Your world is just your perspective; a collection of your principles and value system. Redefine your thoughts to see life from a different angle altogether when everything you've tried doesn't work for you, dream anew n' keep Moving On..!!

I end with one of my favorite quote from Arthur Conan Doyle, "Life is infinitely stranger than anything the mind could invent..."

Friday, July 6, 2012


Ralph Martson, once said "Just imagine the incredible power of being able to say "I can" when everyone else is saying I can't.'"

How true is this? Have you felt a whole new world opening for you the moment you "I can". Your confidence with soar high your spirits, your mind will explore the uninitiated and you'll have plethora of options before your eyes to take your pick on how you want to deal with the challenge or task.

CONFIDENCE SELLS and it has amazing contagious power. People believe in those who believe in themselves. No one wants to be stuck in a room with other people who feel like they don't deserve to be there. Stop wondering if you're good enough. Know you are, and behave accordingly. Put in your best always. Pluck out the weeds from your road to achievement and pause, assimilate before taking critical decisions. Rushing into any situation is highly detrimental, so avoid it as much as you can. It will be an exacting sojourn but when you see the desired outcome, you will feel exalted and overwhelmed yourself and say "It's been worth it". Sometimes things don't work out as desired but you'll surely learn from the experience and wait for the next opportunity to be grabbed.

"I can't" is a classic quitter’s syndrome. Before they happen to influence you, put them in the IGNORE mode and move on. It saves a lot of headache and wastage of time that could well be invested elsewhere. This is also an indicator that it is time to change people around you.

As Ayn Rand says, "the question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me."

So, what's stopping you, eh..?! Get going...

Friday, June 15, 2012

Living Life Realistically...

As Melody Rose says "The important people in our lives leave imprints. They may stay or go in the physical realm, but they are always there in your heart, because they helped form your heart. There’s no getting over that."

How true is it..?! If you introspect your own life, you'll realise that just a handful people actually fall in the afore mentioned cadre but if you look at your friend's list in FB or for that matter any social networking site they would be anywhere close to 250+ on an average. Do you really know all of them in depths? So which statictics are true? I would say, instead of going by the statistics which is just a random count of numbers based on some absurd formula as a base; it is better to follow your gut instincts though at times serendipity just about manages to throw in the surprise bloomers which act as warm respite. 

As you age, you'll come to realize that pleasing everyone is impossible but pissing everyone off is a piece of a cake. The expectations - fulfillment ratio has tilted off horrendously so much that its not worth a mention. Dealing with it detached and mechanically is the best way out..!!

Being a perfect human being in today's realm is a misnomer. I would say (after I've practiced it over years), adopt the realist approach; do what you're convinced of, spice it up with the values incultated in your system from your childhood, bellicose what needs to be revolted upon and just be YOU. The path is not laden with roses, you'll have to step out of your comfort zone, take the risks, struggle against the odds, attain your goals and realise your self worth for no one can do it for you. Its your LIFE and you're the author of your own book where you write your story in pen. Nothing can be erased from the past but you can only learn from them as experiences in life that help you surge ahead. Live every moment to the fullest for they'll form your memories when you look back at them.

There's always going to be bad stuff out there. But here's the amazing thing; light triumphs darkness, every time. You stick a candle into the dark, but you can't stick the dark into the light.

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Known Unknown

Life's journey is made of many sojourns. While some are big, some are small. This journey is accomplished with many people who come across as travelers in our lives but some last life long. As we grow, we know we need more of such real lasting ones to make our journey more meaningful as life when lived alone often leads to sadness, loneliness and melancholy but when lived in the company of anam cara's often turns out to be joyous as happy times get multiplied and testing times are divided and feel less harsh.

What happens when suddenly in your life, you feel as if you've been hit by a whirlwind and someone known feels like an unknown..?? No matter what you cannot relate with that person now the way you did earlier.

Life comes to a standstill momentarily till you're able to collect yourself and figure out what went wrong in the relation. How did it turn sour? How did the bridges turn into gaps and further into chasms? How come you never saw the storm coming and set your pulse on the visible symptoms? At times, you seek the answers you want which puts your mind at rest and makes it easier for you to move on; while at other times it seems like a black hole. No amount of introspection is going to help for what's occurred has occured and cannot be undone. At best, you can re-categorize this person who though appeared like an anam cara in your life, initially, turned out to be a traveler meant to last only a season and not a lifetime. There are some people who leave you when you no longer serve the purpose of their life and so they leave you mid-way and move on for no fault of yours. In order to live a better life, you've to figure out a way to weed away such people from your life and keep only the real ones.

Remember, the ones who stick with you through life's ups, sides and downs without expecting anything in return are the real people in your life. On a lighter note, life is like a party; as long as the party lasts everyone stays around but very few stay back to clean the mess long after the party is over in the wee hours. These are the real people who will stick around with you. 

Though, it's sad when people you know become people you knew but truth remains that this is a part of life and you've to deal with it. Your life does not end with their moving out of your realm. Like them, you, too, have to learn to "Move On" treating the entire incident as an experience in your life and cherishing the happy memories forever (if you choose to..!!). 

Zendagi Migzara...

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Journey of Life with I

Sometimes life writes stories that nobody could imagine.

Years back, I set on a quest to find out my calling in life. That further led to defining the "I" in me. Till then, I used to always say to the people around me that I am destiny's favorite child, thanks to the trials n' tribulations I had to go through from a very young age.

After a lot of soul searching and introspection; I now define myself as under:

This is ME
rebel, thinker, realistic, passionate, emotional soul!!

a soul in search of her calling,
a professional in pursuit of her goal,
a heart seeking it's own realm n' pristine love,
a child-woman yearning to break FREE..!!

Will I ever get to be all of it or is it just a fragment of my wild imagination where I am demanding too much life..?? How often and for how long has such similar thought crossed your mind..?? I am certain, I am not the lone one longing for such simplicity from life that has extenuated life's little things from our present day complicated lives. There are many perceptions that life is this and life is that but is there are true absolute definition to life?

The definition of "I" and the true meaning of life are intertwined and juxtaposed such that one cannot exist without the other and it is imperative that we define both and stay grounded on both by imbuing it in our system if we have to live a balanced life.

In our day to day survival in Darwin's world, we are told it is only the "Survival of the fittest" exist. So, is life a war field where you've to keep battling for your existence? That would lead us to a different world in itself. The man-eating-man kinds. For sure, none of us want to belong to such a realm.

Life is a journey not a destination said someone else. Is it indeed, actually? Now, this comes close to our experiences but still doesn't answer the query with an authoritative finality. 

Sometimes life sucks. Sometimes life gets so hard that you don't want to be put through it anymore. Sometimes life is so stressful, and all you want to do is cry and then relax to give vent to all your feelings that have been bottled up within you. But sometimes life is beautiful, too. Mother Nature is a true blessing in disguise. It calms and soothes your mind and you feel invigorated in its midst. Sometimes life feels so happy with little things that you want the moment stay forever. You want the universe to pause but at the same time there are also those  moments of hell holes in life that consume you in the vortex of the black hole and you feel as if its the end and there is nothing more that you can do. At such times, you just have to stay positive, and push through all the hard times. Connect with the loved ones and share your life as they share theirs to boost your adrenaline or go to some faraway place where you are not known  and you have no obligations to honor, disconnect from all forms of communication with the external world and in this new found solitude, figure out the mess in your life and iron out all the problems in your life by plucking and throwing the weeds that you let grow through moments of callousness. Trust me, this works..!!

And the only reason why you should be doing all of this is that LIFE is worth it and so are YOU..!!

Always remember, "Life is infinitely stranger than anything the mind could invent..."

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Valuing Relations

“It's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings, and standing up for what you believe.”

It was a very recent experience when I landed in a similar situation and realized that such, too, could be the case that life could dish out to you. My only best friend with whom I share my life's one of finest relation on the basis of friendship based on the premise that we would be there for each other come what the situation be took me through it. In a platonic relation all you seek is time and nothing else. Not the clocked and timed ones but the once in a while kinds where you live in a world of your own catching up on each other and you're in a "ignore" mode with regards to the world and just spend quality time with each other. All was fine till one day, a span of time ear marked as such by him alone (a genuine surprise for me), got traded for a business deal on a later date keeping me in the dark until I re-confirmed. Its said money is the root cause of all evil and the action of my dear friend just demonstrated same. My reaction to it was stark violent followed by stoic silence because for me relations as pious as this mutual respect comes first. At least I could have been consented or informed in advance but none of these happened. It hurt and the hurt was deep. I thought a lot about it and I found my reaction to be natural and stood my grounds on same. It was a question of my beliefs and values and I had to take a stance. After all, relations as such are a highway and not a one-way street and to be taken for granted is the last straw. This is just one of the stray incidents that occurs in everybody's life (used for citation purpose). I wasn't the only one going through this but as its said emotional scars remain even after the wound is healed with time. 

It's sad that in this materialistic world where we are living where true relations are hard to find, get taken for granted by not being given their due and not valued at all. Unconditional/Do-not-expect/Demanding/Give-Take are all buzz words overlapping on their meanings but yet they fit into every relation in their own special way. At the end of the day; it takes two to tango and this is the ultimate truth be it any relation: couple/friends/siblings/... Life is pretty much demanding and taxing in itself, nowadays, why complicate it further by not valuing true relations??? Then all that will be left is bitter taste and distrust which is a direct outcome of your own decisions. Do not blame others or situations in that case for it is self created.

To sum up, there is nothing in life that stops you from refraining hurting others in such meaningful relations. Such a state of affairs is bliss but also a RARITY. Do all that it takes to preserve it.

Zendagi Migzara...

Friday, April 13, 2012

Path of Excellence - A Journey alone..!!

"If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.. "

Firstly, set yourself free; no matter what rules surround you. If you find them tolerable, tolerate them; if you find them too obnoxious, break them. Realize that you're free because you are aware that you alone are morally responsible for everything you do.

With some people you spend time; with others you invest it. Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right kind of people. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights.

Never rely entirely on the stats for most of them are created on the spur of the moment and, also, do not take serendipity seriously till you have vetted it yourself. Just believe in your capabilities and surge ahead. With this kind of attitude; who's going to stop you?

Failure is the hallmark of success. It can be the starting point of a new venture, such as all the pain a butterfly grows through to set itself free from the wings. If we break open the egg shell the wings of that butterfly will never be strong enough to take the flight. Similarly, we need to see failures in life, too, to appreciate the true value of success you've worked for. Try Try Try till you succeed; if not there's always a "U" turn to start all over again in a different direction. It is not the end of life..

The journey leading to excellence is a hard one which calls in for a lot of blood, sweat n' toil; in addition to the many sacrifices in life. But, if your goal is set right and your will and determination are in your control there is not stopping you. It is not a number game as much as it is a mind game. As Melody Rose says it, "There is ample time for you to be who you want to be. Don't allow yourself to settle for less than what you think you deserve. Despite the struggles that you might be facing, never give up on yourself. You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and twice as capable as you have ever imagined."

The less you associate and depend on people, the more are your chances of reaching fulfilling your ambition. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person. An important attribute in successful people is their allergic with negative thinking and negative acting people. They are in constant need of positive energy around them to fuel their minds.

"A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the the choices he makes."

As you grow, people around you will change. Some of them even your so-called friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Such people who don't want to help you climb will want you to crawl. They will skew your vision or trash of your dream.

Sometimes you just have to stand alone, only to make sure you still can. Being alone sometimes is not that bad after all. It just helps you identify where you stand in life and this is the most important evaluation which decides on the further courses of action that needs to be taken to reach your destination.

In the end...
It's not your look that counts; it's your OUTLOOK..!!

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Getting a handle on Life..!!

Why is it that a particular ambition or relation or venture or association becomes so mission critical in our life that we cling on it as if it were a life savior and tend to collapse within should the endeavor never take off or goes kaput in between? Why do we let it affect us so much that we fail to recognize the pleasant things that life has to offer us at that point and time and yet choose to wallow in self pity and get warped in it? Momentary withdrawal is understood for it is a part and parcel of human life but why do we take permanent decisions on temporary situations?

Always remember, success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. Whenever you're in conflict with anything or anyone in life, there is one factor that can make the difference to sabotaging the situation. That factor is attitude. No matter how far you've gone; you can always turn around. Handle the situation precariously and you've let the situation slip outta your hand but if handled with a dose of reality as icing, you'll know how exactly to salvage the situation and bounce back. Every scar only makes you stronger even if the mark remains as a memoir.

When things get tough, find a reason to go on instead of a reason to quit. Both are easy to find, but the one you chose will change your life. In life, things change, people change, and it doesn't mean you forget the past or try to cover it up. It simply means that you move on and treasure the memories. Letting go doesn't mean giving up… it means accepting that some things weren't meant to be.

I end this here with this fact of life...
You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.

Saturday, March 24, 2012

Past - The way it is..!!

Holding on to the past is like trying to breathe life into a dead body that has already breath its last. It's the pain to revive it even when you know that it's gone and now all that remain are memories of the times spent together. Curtains down, one act of the play is over. The stage is empty temporarily for new and existing characters to take on their role.

No one is singled out here. We've all had our share of losses but yet how we handle them is what defines the rest of the course of our life.

Not letting go of the past or inability to overcome the past is like being caught in the vortex of the time warp that holds you enmeshed within it but there is no way out unless you wanna remain in the black hole forever or you wanna make an endeavor to step out of it. Its been a year less than a decade since I lost my dad but the mere thought of him or any family moments of get togetherness or any cross roads brings back his flooding memories rife with pain insane. Life has moved on without him, I have changed but the girl child within me continues to hold on to her dad in her continuing life's journey; all this while being unsure if he is even there watching over. Such is the mayhem in my mind..!!

I know it's entrapment and I'm stuck; I'm inflicting pain on me, myself where I've reached a stage of being both the victim and the attacker. It is not voluntarily. Some incidents do happen in our lives where we hold onto the past instead of past holding onto us..!! Why? I am still seeking answers. Is there a way to quantify loss? NO. There isn't any. Can what's gone forever especially death ever come back? NO. Why then do we keep pinning for it that it will someday..?? Replaying his last day to which I was witness to over and over again is an act I've no control on. Was there anyway, I could change that fateful day to make him live a little longer all when he kept saying he wanted to live and there I was helpless unable to do anything. This has been the biggest failure of my life. Come what may, I cannot infuse life into my dad and bring him back. Yet, I feel trapped in this bondage. Why? I have no frigging clue..!!

Life showed me a different facet of life that I was oblivious to all along. What matters, what do not, how people change, how relations change, who sticks through, who understands, what really matters, all of it..!!

But, one thing is absolutely certain you can never completely overcome your past because it surmises the person you've transformed to be today. It is up to you to decide whether to keep the doors of your heart closed to it, live within the boundaries or remain stuck in it.

We can’t put the past on rewind, pause or forward for there are no buttons in life.

Saturday, March 10, 2012

When the past catches up with you...

After having seen a lot of ups and downs in my life with some unusually strange incidents; I had decided to burn all the bridges behind me after I had crossed them as I wanted to move on in life. Keeping the bridges alive felt like being chained to my past. I did not want my past to make me a bitter person. With great difficulty and after a lot of sheer conviction; I took the final call and moved on in life. Sieving the good memories from the chaffed ones brought in freedom from pain and this helped me a lot.

Life has been a roller coaster ride and that too a fast paced one off lately but with every passing moment, I am learning the meaning of the finer nuances of life. Earlier, I used to shudder confusing every tiny part to be the whole but not anymore (Half knowledge can be deadly!!). Maybe, that's the role TIME plays in our lives. It brings in with it maturity and an entirely different approach towards life. A recent conversation with a close one sprung back a piece of my past unknown to me. Having burned the bridges; I did not know how to handle this piece of reality. It started with a nudge and I did not realize how soon it had snow balled enough to have my complete attention to it. Unknowingly, I had given it the power to control me which further impacted my once stable life. Whether I wanted it or not, this new piece of information from my past had clung onto me like leech. Memories of past resurfaced and reeled before me making me feel very low and reminiscing me of incidents slain. What was the point then in burning the bridges behind if the connection still persisted..?? Since it belonged to my past there was nothing I could do to undo it. It was just that I was ignorant about it and yes it did feel blissful to have been ignorant so long. If I had known it back then; maybe I would be on different course of life altogether but destiny had something else destined for me. If this piece of information has been unveiled to me now; maybe I am ripe enough today to deal with it - not immediately but certainly in due course of time.

It took me long to realize that though I had moved on, few incidents from the past have left indelible emotional scars in me and that these scars might never heal. Come what may..!!

Next time, you see your past catching up with you, know that it is only because you're ripe for same..!!

Saturday, February 25, 2012

Which bridges to cross and which bridges to burn..??

Life is all about knowing which bridges to cross and which bridges to burn.

In the realm of life’s sojourn where we learn life's lessons - big or small, we either let our wisdom and experience take the decision or leave it to serendipity. The problem is that what we consider major could actually be temporary situations on which we mostly end up taking firm final decisions, when we should not and tend to ignore the ones that actually seek our complete attention. Eventually, both matter in deciding the further course of our life's journey. While we win some, we lose some. The real challenge lies in knowing when to fight and when to walk away. It calls for a realm filled with rationalization, logic and practicality with no room for emotions to decide which are the one's, one needs to fight for and which are the one's you've to let go.

We all have our pasts that has left an imprint on us and we hang on to it. Releasing the past is essential and one of the most daunting task which doesn't come easy. We must "Move on" for that's the mantra of life. At the same time, letting go off past that we've clung onto so long doesn't come in that easy on self. For this you who got to be strong enough mentally to take a firm decision on it - learn the lessons from the past and ignore the rest for you're not looking that way again, if you want to surge ahead. At this very juncture, you got to decide the hardest decision of your life on "which bridge to cross and which to burn.” If you do not take a stance at this level, you tend to stay rooted to ground zero which ends up being detrimental.

Do introspect at length and weigh all aspects of your realm before you make the final choice. Once you've sought the answers to all your questions; do not halt. ACT and deal with the situation: Burn the bridge; Cross the bridge or create and take a new path altogether. The choice is all yours. At the same time, do not hold on for so long that you miss out on all the many doors that opened for you while you were busy thinking..!!

Life is full of contrariness and tautness that exacts all your will and strength to make you who you're. When you're in the midst of a storm and the wind doesn't blow your way; you need to adjust your sails, change direction and continue with your journey. That's Life..!!

So… What bridges in your life are the ones you want to burn n' which bridges do you have to build and cross, eh..?! Ask yourself..!!

Thursday, February 9, 2012

Never compromise yourself..!!

When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you.

Remember that we all live our own lives. We do not live the life of another. For us to reach our pre-ordained destiny and realize our dreams, there will be many critics in life whom we have to put them on "ignore" mode; be it their insults, opinions and judgments - you’ll have to cast them all aside. For if you do not; then it means you are letting them control your life. The outcome is such that you would become so estranged from yourself and feel like the real YOU is trapped inside you screaming to let it out. Do you want to go through such myriad of emotions? NO. So, exclude yourself from all such people who create nothing but instigate you, pollute your mind and create mayhem with a whole lot of drama in your life just to add spice to their entertainment.

As Ayn Rand rightfully says "I need no warrant for being, and no word of sanction upon my being. I am the warrant and the sanction."; isn't this true..?? This should be the guiding principle of all our lives.

To live your life in your own terms, first you need to have a strong sense of your self within, evoke your consciousness at the deepest level and take only radical n' practical decisions as is the need of the hour.It is important that you do not let the vagaries of life leave their imprints on you. Learn from them; unlearn and relearn if you've to.. it's a must..!! If you can ensure that you've defined your own boundaries and value system, which means that you essentially know who the real YOU is and can take care of your being; then you are equipped to take care of and hold the handle of your life.

Remember always ~
Don’t compromise yourself. You’re all you’ve got..!!

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Journey within Yourself

When you listen to your heart, do not allow your sobriety to waiver when others judge you as FAR from perfect. What truly matters is that where you are headed brings you CLOSER to being yourself.
~ Dodinsky

We all started our journey as soon as we were born but this journey within yourself is something you undertake when you've paused to understand the meaning of life and what makes you - YOU. We all know, what we are fleeing from but do we really know what we are in search of..??

If you are taking stock of your life and if you don’t yet feel you are exactly where you want to be, maybe it's time for you to invest in travelling inward. It's disheartening that nowadays we have been acclimatized to look for everything on the outside when truth lies in the fact that all our answers actually resides inside us.

More than the mind, it is the heart that will preempt and guide you in this journey of identifying what you are searching for and taking you a step closer to being yourself. But, again, it's not just the mind, alone, it's all our senses unified that make this journey worthwhile..!! Becoming conscious of this is the first step of the journey within. Once you've identified your search, you've to sift through the layers and take radical measure to bring out the real YOU shunning what those around you judge/define about you. If you commit yourself to be focused on this journey, you will observe a distinct change in your persona and heightened powers of intuition. This in turn will allow you to grow stronger within and you will be able to listen to your heart and follow your instincts more easily. You will recognize the path that you need to embark on and this enlightenment will come from within you. Deeper into the journey, you'll realize all that you seek lies within yourself; it's intrinsic. Hard to believe, eh..??!! NO. It's a true fact of our lives. Some realize and admit it, some don't!!

As Ralph Waldo Emerson says, "What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."

The only real journey of our lives is the journey within. GO FOR IT..!!

Sunday, January 22, 2012

POWER within YOU..!!

As Marriane Williamson eloquently says “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Now, more than ever is the time to realize the potential of the POWER within us due to the rapid changes in the world and universe surrounding us. It's time to face reality in the face of it and not live in the illusions of fear and low self-esteem. Why feel inundated with those around us when we have the controls within us to be who we want to be..??

It is time we visualize and give form to our thoughts, reverberating them with the amplitude energy surrounding us. It is time we align and conform ourselves to who we are for the TIME is ripe. If we do not pay heed to our inner self now; we will never be able to do it ever again. It is imperative that we believe in the power of the POWER within us then we will no longer have to worry about anything and just be our true REAL self where there is no distinction between "I", "ME" and "MYSELF". We do not have to understand the technicalities behind them; we just have to learn how and when to liberate the power in the right perspective and for the right reasons like spreading more love, condescending blasphemy, creating benevolence et al. This line of path is not just for attaining freedom, it's much more than that..!! It's about creating the peace and harmony within us that we so much seek but can't find anywhere for we are all seeking it outside when actually it lies inside us. We are all connected to "The One", the infinite mind and are a fruition of HIS creation. This fact of life is enough to set us in the right path and get moving on without being rooted to the past or worrying about the future.

Get a Life! GO.. Unleash the POWER WITHIN YOU and see for yourself its mystical wonders..!!

Monday, January 16, 2012

Don't let a Season in your Life define your Lifetime..!!

“There seems to be a kind of order in the universe, in the movement of the stars and the turning of the earth and the changing of the seasons, and even in the cycle of human life. But human life itself is almost pure chaos.
~ Katherine Anne Porter

We are all here for a purpose. But, how many of us really do realize that the time is ripe and we are ready for to seek the purpose, if we haven't as yet? Instead of finding peace within us, we seek it in the realm outside. Such state of mind doesn't last long. Sooner or later in our life, as we look at the reflection in the mirror, we realize this question staring at us through our reflection. This is where begins the journey to define the "I" in us. No matter what be the nature of questions we pose, the answer might be sought then or through some signs that nature unveils in our path as we move on. Patience and endurance are the key factors. Truth remains, we are here on Planet Earth to touch each others lives while evolving within to a higher state of consciousness as also facilitating it for those around us who are in the same wavelength.

The journey of our life is a vicious rigmarole where we see different seasons (read phases/chapters) of our life that surmise our lifetime here when finally reach the zero hour. Every element of nature, the zeniths and the nadirs with their chaperons in hope, faith, chaos, conflict, love, loss, reality, success, gratitude n' its ilk envelope us and help us grow as an individual. Every season sculpts us, to reveal the real person lying deep within us. Just like how the seasons of nature come and go in a pre-ordained flow with some exceptions in between, we too face something similar in our expedition. Wisdom lies in not letting "a Season in our Life define our Lifetime". For the uninitiated, the end of the season doesn't mean the end of life. We have to move on with the learning's from this season to live through the next.

Every season is a precursor to the next. Knowing this is very essential as it holds the key to the rest of the journey. These seasons sometimes nurture a safe sanctum from us from where we spread out and explore the different facets of life discovering every moment passing by; at the same time, they also pose deterring challenges that waver our strong will, fragment us into pieces beyond recall, leaving us to figure our state-of-affairs on our own. It is at this point that our integrity is tested by the spiritual power controlling our strings. Clinging on to the lowest phase and defining this phase as your lifetime is what a loser would do. Do you want to be one..??!! No. The dry seasons in life do not last forever. The spring rains will come again.

Learn what you've to and just keep moving on till you end your lifetime here. There is no end to this mystical journey called life. When, What, Where, How it unveils what before us is something we cannot herald even a remote guess on. Let this mystery excite you to move on to the next season and see what's that got in store for you.

Its just one short life that we have, then why waste the precious time on the unwanted that would only bring you down; just live life to the fullest as it unfolds for there are no rewinds, pause or replay buttons in life. Never wish to live your life "once again"; its the worst form of regret. Whatever you want, do it NOW for there are no second chances..!!

seasons change but
they continue to flow
reach out to them
to know more n' more
to be able to sift
the surreal from the whole
as these passing moments
will embellish n' kinder
your soul..!!

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Are true meaningful relations a passé..??

Science may have found a cure for most evils: but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all - the apathy of human beings. - Helen Keller

How right are her words..!!

Almost all of our sorrows spring out of our relations with other people. Do we really understand the meaning of true relations? Are we seeking them in the first place? Statistics reveal an alarming increase in divorce across the world, at high frequency where marriages get frizzled out in few days/months. Reason given is incompatibility. But, did you ever give it your full to the relation to make it work? How come our parents and fore fathers generations never faced this problem? Are we, too, demanding in our relations or highly impatient to adjust and adapt and draw conclusions at the drop of a hat? Nowadays, love has become a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money and divorce a matter of course.

In this age where social networking has become prevalent over us; true meaningful relationships and friendship have begun to dwindle at a rapid pace. Personal interactions have become history after being steadfastly replaced by superficial interactions for the heck of it where people flatter those who do not care and ignore those who truly adore and care, thereby dealing a mindless blow to the undeserving. For lack of an occasional expression of love when most needed; a relationship that appeared strong at the seams may begin to wear thin in the middle. Problems in relationship occur when each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person instead of doing a self analysis and finding out what is missing in self. This is the root cause why most of the relations in our lives are turning out to be frivolous. At the end, this just marks the beginning of another bitter end.

The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are. You've got be the real YOU. As Stephen Covey says, "Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships.", its true to the core. Real relationships require trust, commitment, diligent effort and at times self-sacrifice, but the rewards are worth it. Given this premise, you will see that your joys get doubled and your problems halved in right companionship and you will have a realm you will be profoundly happy about. Relationships of every nature have a perpetual need to be nurtured and cared for to survive and thrive the highs and lows of life. In today's stress filled life, space plays a key role. It is important to know when to give space and when to come closer. This is the golden key to any lasting relationship. Never take real relationships lightly or frivolously. Always bear in mind that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. True meaningful relations in today's world is a rarity; so it makes perfect sense to preserve them by putting in our all to it and cherishing every priceless moment of it.

If you know you are playing on someone's emotions just to have a short term fling or to satisfy a personal need in you; do not prey on the innocent ones as it could cause a permanent dent in their mind. Find someone who is like minded and willing to be experimental with you for same but spare the genuine.

All of us here are in pursuit of a sense of belonging and acceptance.To form a meaningful relationship you need to be willing to open yourself up and let someone into your life. Look for someone you can befriend without expectations, where there are no strings attached – you enjoy each others company with some commonality and a striking wavelength; that is enough to begin with. En route try knowing as much as you can about the person to make a decision. This is not for love birds alone; it is applicable to friends and platonic relationships too. If you have someone with whom you can share a meaningful relationship with then be sure to spend some time with them everyday even if it were a few seconds to give a personal connect, keep the communications on along side and stay updated on the happenings in each other's life as this deepens and cements the bond that you share to be an ever lasting one.

As Brian Tracy says “Eighty percent of life's satisfaction comes from meaningful relationships”.

So, what's stopping you from putting in your best and living a content life, eh..??!!

Sunday, January 8, 2012

Are you a part of the FB Mania..??

I happened to meet a friend of mine after many years. It was a moment of rejoice. As moments passed and we delved deep in conversation, I realized our talks were centering around FB to know which of our other friends were when and where and what was going on in their world. We exchanged quite some updates.

I am not a social media addict but this one has got me hooked as it connected me with all those school and college friends and teachers and a few others whom I would have never been able to connect with again in my life as, as is a part of all our life's journey each one of them had moved to some corner of the world and were living in a world of their own. The joy of finding a close buddy lost in the tide of time is profound and cannot be expressed in any words. In a way, sincere THANKS to Mr. Zuckerberg and his team for creating Facebook.

A chance conversation with an ex-colleague after a decade ended with are you on FB instead of what I thought that he would ask for would my contact number. This stuck a deep chord in me. Gone are the days of personal touch and face to face conversations, isn't it..?? The surreal world for sure has enamored us and sucked us into its vortex without us even knowing about it.

You know you have an FB addiction when you start thinking in status updates, get anxious when your statuses go unnoticed and all the jing-bang that follows. How else do you explain teens-adults alike being hooked to apps like farmville, fishville and its ilk. Look around as you walk wherever you are or at your workplace, how many people are using their laptops or cell phones for face-booking oblivious of the environment around them and are transfixed on the gadget in their hand or laptop before them. Next, look at your Facebook account, do you really have 777+ odd friends in this world whom you personally know? Do you really know all about the hundreds of “Subscribers” who follow your updates? Now, do you get the drift, eh..??

It is indeed an intimidating reality that people from all parts of the world are hooked if not addicted to this marvel called FB mania that is sweeping the world at large. Inspite of it being a part of the surreal world; we end up posting anything and everything about us here including very personal information without considering the safety and security measures for there is an audience that responds. It has also evolved into a medium to create rebellious, revolutionary change that brings forth issues which we are otherwise ignorant from unless it's gained momentum and glares at us on the FB news stream. Excess FB addiction aka the hook-line-sinker form affects work productivity, study performances and relationships too, to some extent; the damage of which will be known in the years to come. It surely has its pros and cons but it is always up to the person to exercise prudence and control after all the data is gulped down and kept safe by a third party for their consumption who at the end of day would know as much about you as you do or probably a little more by keeping a mark on ya personal trends n' tastes. At the end of day's play, we should always be responsible and accountable to everything that we post and do with our personal account and be aware of the time efforts we are investing in it.

At the end, is it worth it all..?? It's too early to be judgemental on this now till enough evidence, statistics and research lead us to some form of conclusion but it's only a matter of time to unveil it at some point.

Are you a part of the FB Mania, too..??

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Power of Expression

The meaning of life is contained in every single expression of life. It is present in the infinity of forms and phenomena that exist in all of creation.
~ Michael Jackson

Everything we do is an expression of who we are.

One of the hardest things to do is expressing yourself and this is applicable everywhere; be it your personal or professional life. How many times have you said something that just didn't come out the way you wanted it to and you couldn't stop it too; leaving you frenzied muttering "Jeez what's wrong with me".... Why can't I get it out straight..?? How many times have you said something that we really didn't mean and were left with no means to undo the outcome of what you just said and were left to deal with the situation when it could have been well avoided..?? How many times have you had to bear the brunt of your silence when you could have salvaged the situation by expressing yourself..?? There is no point in penting up your emotions and building a wall or isolating yourself when you could just find out what mode of expression suits you best. Verbal is not the only mode. You can write it or be creative and express it through any of your chosen line of art.

Try understand that there is no point having your anxiety locked-in for the fear of losing something or somebody or not having the courage to speak it out or fear being judged by what you say. You could get consumed in it if you do not find a way to let it out doing more damage than you could have imagined. Do no hesitate to share your true emotions. What's yours and what is true will always remain the same. Hence, it is important that you learn to express yourself and convey your thoughts, feelings, realization, ideas, dreams, goals, emotions... (the list could go on endless) as apropos. You need to seize the right moment and medium, express and get going..!!

One needs to express one's thoughts and feelings in a way that clearly states whatever needs to be stated in the way it is felt by the mind or heart. Stay away from unwanted expressions and actions like gossip, bitching, et al. It doesn't lead you anywhere. If you indulge in it be prepared to receive the same once you turn your back.

Words... have the power to make or mar! It is important that you choose them wisely. It is also believed that words are just words and won't mean anything unless you act them out. It is true, more or less because through the other mediums the receiver will have to be in the same premise as the sender. That form of fine balance needs to be there.

Our life is a journey of discovering ourselves and defining the "I" in us. Wouldn't it be nice to express this as you keep discovering the new facets that make you, YOU? Once you learn the art of expressing yourself you'll be amazed by the wonders and response to it and sense how much free and lighter you feel. Especially, so in relationships. Its good to be the real YOU and express yourself as who you really are instead of pretending to be someone who you are not.

ENJOY THE POWER OF EXPRESSIONS. Live Your Life, Your Way... :)