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To the extent to which a man is rational, life is the premise directing his actions. To the extent to which he is irrational, the premise directing his actions is death. ~ Ayn Rand Gone are the days of bliss of us being young and innocent; where we day dreamed of life without pain, without fear, without loss. With the growing years, we transformed to become individuals who we are today but in its true essence we are a far cry, a distinct identity of our former younger self. Sometimes it's tiring to be always strong in this game called life. One might conceal it by masking it externally but what about the lava erupting within you? Somewhere, the limits need to be drawn. Was the transformation a must? YES. That's the rule of the realm we live in but how much of change should we allow to permeate within us? Agreed, change is the only constant in all our lives but changing our individuality to adapt to it constantly is not a way to handle change. We have to put on a period of

Ralph Martson, once said "Just imagine the incredible power of being able to say "I can" when everyone else is saying I can't.'" How true is this? Have you felt a whole new world opening for you the moment you "I can". Your confidence with soar high your spirits, your mind will explore the uninitiated and you'll have plethora of options before your eyes to take your pick on how you want to deal with the challenge or task. CONFIDENCE SELLS and it has amazing contagious power. People believe in those who believe in themselves. No one wants to be stuck in a room with other people who feel like they don't deserve to be there. Stop wondering if you're good enough. Know you are, and behave accordingly. Put in your best always. Pluck out the weeds from your road to achievement and pause, assimilate before taking critical decisions. Rushing into any situation is highly detrimental, so avoid it as much as you can. It will be an exact

As Melody Rose says " The important people in our lives leave  imprints. They may stay or go in the physical realm, but  they are always there in your heart, because they helped  form your heart. There’s no getting over that. " How true is it..?! If you introspect your own life, you'll  realise that just a handful people actually fall in the  afore mentioned cadre but if you look at your friend's list  in FB or for that matter any social networking site they  would be anywhere close to 250+ on an average. Do you really  know all of them in depths? So which statictics are true? I  would say, instead of going by the statistics which is just  a random count of numbers based on some absurd formula as a  base; it is better to follow your gut instincts though at  times serendipity just about manages to throw in the  surprise bloomers which act as warm respite.  As you age, you'll come to realize that pleasing  everyone is impossible but pissing everyone off

Life's journey is made of many sojourns. While some are big, some are small. This journey is accomplished with many people who come across as travelers in our lives but some last life long. As we grow, we know we need more of such real lasting ones to make our journey more meaningful as life when lived alone often leads to sadness, loneliness and melancholy but when lived in the company of anam cara's often turns out to be joyous as happy times get multiplied and testing times are divided and feel less harsh. What happens when suddenly in your life, you feel as if you've been hit by a whirlwind and someone known feels like an unknown ..?? No matter what you cannot relate with that person now the way you did earlier. Life comes to a standstill momentarily till you're able to collect yourself and figure out what went wrong in the relation. How did it turn sour? How did the bridges turn into gaps and further into chasms? How come you never saw the storm coming and

Sometimes life writes stories that nobody could imagine. Years back, I set on a quest to find out my calling in life. That further led to defining the "I" in me. Till  then, I used to always say to the people around me that I am  destiny's favorite child, thanks to the trials n'  tribulations I had to go through from a very young age. After a lot of soul searching and introspection; I now  define myself as under: This is ME rebel, thinker, realistic, passionate, emotional soul!! I AM a soul in search of her calling, a professional in pursuit of her goal, a heart seeking it's own realm n' pristine love, a child-woman yearning to break FREE..!! Will I ever get to be all of it or is it just a fragment  of my wild imagination where I am demanding too much  life..?? How often and for how long has such similar  thought crossed your mind..?? I am certain, I am not the  lone one longing for such simplicity from life that has  extenuated

“It's hard to determine where to draw the line between  being nice and not hurting people's feelings, and  standing up for what you believe.” It was a very recent experience when I landed in a similar situation and realized that such, too, could be  the case that life could dish out to you. My only best friend  with whom I share my life's one of finest relation on the basis of friendship based on  the premise that we would be there for each other  come what the situation be took me through it. In a platonic relation all  you seek is time and nothing else. Not the clocked and  timed ones but the once in a while kinds where you live  in a world of your own catching up on each other and  you're in a "ignore" mode with regards to the world and just spend quality time with each other. All  was fine till one day, a span of time ear marked as such by him alone (a genuine surprise for me), got  traded for a business deal on a later date keeping me in the dark

"If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.. " Firstly, set yourself free; no matter what rules surround you. If you find them tolerable, tolerate them; if you find them too obnoxious, break them. Realize that you're free because you are aware that you alone are morally responsible for everything you do. With some people you spend time; with others you invest it. Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right kind of people. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. Never rely entirely on the stats for most of them are created on the spur of the moment and, also, do not take serendipity seriously till you have vetted it yourself. Just believe in your capabilities and surge a

Why is it that a particular ambition or relation or venture or association becomes so mission critical in our life that we cling on it as if it were a life savior and tend to collapse within should the endeavor never take off or goes kaput in between? Why do we let it affect us so much that we fail to recognize the pleasant things that life has to offer us at that point and time and yet choose to wallow in self pity and get warped in it? Momentary withdrawal is understood for it is a part and parcel of human life but why do we take permanent decisions on temporary situations? Always remember, success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. Whenever you're in conflict with anything or anyone in life, there is one factor that can make the difference to sabotaging the situation. That factor is attitude. No matter how far you've gone; you can always turn around. Handle the situation precariously and you've let the situation slip outta your h

Holding on to the past is like trying to breathe life into a dead body that has already breath its last. It's the pain to revive it even when you know that it's gone and now all that remain are memories of the times spent together. Curtains down, one act of the play is over. The stage is empty temporarily for new and existing characters to take on their role. No one is singled out here. We've all had our share of losses but yet how we handle them is what defines the rest of the course of our life. Not letting go of the past or inability to overcome the past is like being caught in the vortex of the time warp that holds you enmeshed within it but there is no way out unless you wanna remain in the black hole forever or you wanna make an endeavor to step out of it. Its been a year less than a decade since I lost my dad but the mere thought of him or any family moments of get togetherness or any cross roads brings back his flooding memories rife with pain insane. Life

After having seen a lot of ups and downs in my life with some unusually strange incidents; I had decided to burn all the bridges behind me after I had crossed them as I wanted to move on in life. Keeping the bridges alive felt like being chained to my past. I did not want my past to make me a bitter person. With great difficulty and after a lot of sheer conviction; I took the final call and moved on in life. Sieving the good memories from the chaffed ones brought in freedom from pain and this helped me a lot. Life has been a roller coaster ride and that too a fast paced one off lately but with every passing moment, I am learning the meaning of the finer nuances of life. Earlier, I used to shudder confusing every tiny part to be the whole but not anymore (Half knowledge can be deadly!!). Maybe, that's the role TIME plays in our lives. It brings in with it maturity and an entirely different approach towards life. A recent conversation with a close one sprung back a piece of my

Life is all about knowing which bridges to cross and which bridges to burn. In the realm of life’s sojourn where we learn life's lessons - big or small, we either let our wisdom and experience take the decision or leave it to serendipity. The problem is that what we consider major could actually be temporary situations on which we mostly end up taking firm final decisions, when we should not and tend to ignore the ones that actually seek our complete attention. Eventually, both matter in deciding the further course of our life's journey. While we win some, we lose some. The real challenge lies in knowing when to fight and when to walk away. It calls for a realm filled with rationalization, logic and practicality with no room for emotions to decide which are the one's, one needs to fight for and which are the one's you've to let go. We all have our pasts that has left an imprint on us and we hang on to it. Releasing the past is essential and one of the mo

When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you. Remember that we all live our own lives. We do not live the life of another. For us to reach our pre-ordained destiny and realize our dreams, there will be many critics in life whom we have to put them on "ignore" mode; be it their insults, opinions and judgments - you’ll have to cast them all aside. For if you do not; then it means you are letting them control your life. The outcome is such that you would become so estranged from yourself and feel like the real YOU is trapped inside you screaming to let it out. Do you want to go through such myriad of emotions? NO. So, exclude yourself from all such people who create nothing but instigate you, pollute your mind and create mayhem with a whole lot of drama in your life just to add spice to their entertainment. As Ayn Rand rightfully says " I need no warrant for being, and n

When you listen to your heart, do not allow your sobriety to waiver when others judge you as FAR from perfect. What truly matters is that where you are headed brings you CLOSER to being yourself. ~ Dodinsky We all started our journey as soon as we were born but this journey within yourself is something you undertake when you've paused to understand the meaning of life and what makes you - YOU. We all know, what we are fleeing from but do we really know what we are in search of..?? If you are taking stock of your life and if you don’t yet feel you are exactly where you want to be, maybe it's time for you to invest in travelling inward. It's disheartening that nowadays we have been acclimatized to look for everything on the outside when truth lies in the fact that all our answers actually resides inside us. More than the mind, it is the heart that will preempt and guide you in this journey of identifying what you are searching for and taking you a step closer

As Marriane Williamson eloquently says “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Now, more than ever is the time to realize the potential of the POWER within us due to the rapid changes in the world and universe surrounding us. It's time to fac

“There seems to be a kind of order in the universe, in the movement of the stars and the turning of the earth and the changing of the seasons, and even in the cycle of human life. But human life itself is almost pure chaos. ~ Katherine Anne Porter We are all here for a purpose. But, how many of us really do realize that the time is ripe and we are ready for to seek the purpose, if we haven't as yet? Instead of finding peace within us, we seek it in the realm outside. Such state of mind doesn't last long. Sooner or later in our life, as we look at the reflection in the mirror, we realize this question staring at us through our reflection. This is where begins the journey to define the "I" in us. No matter what be the nature of questions we pose, the answer might be sought then or through some signs that nature unveils in our path as we move on. Patience and endurance are the key factors. Truth remains, we are here on Planet Earth to touch each others lives whi

Science may have found a cure for most evils: but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all - the apathy of human beings. - Helen Keller How right are her words..!! Almost all of our sorrows spring out of our relations with other people. Do we really understand the meaning of true relations? Are we seeking them in the first place? Statistics reveal an alarming increase in divorce across the world, at high frequency where marriages get frizzled out in few days/months. Reason given is incompatibility. But, did you ever give it your full to the relation to make it work? How come our parents and fore fathers generations never faced this problem? Are we, too, demanding in our relations or highly impatient to adjust and adapt and draw conclusions at the drop of a hat? Nowadays, love has become a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money and divorce a matter of course. In this age where social networking has become prevalent over us; true meaningful relationships and

I happened to meet a friend of mine after many years. It was a moment of rejoice. As moments passed and we delved deep in conversation, I realized our talks were centering around FB to know which of our other friends were when and where and what was going on in their world. We exchanged quite some updates. I am not a social media addict but this one has got me hooked as it connected me with all those school and college friends and teachers and a few others whom I would have never been able to connect with again in my life as, as is a part of all our life's journey each one of them had moved to some corner of the world and were living in a world of their own. The joy of finding a close buddy lost in the tide of time is profound and cannot be expressed in any words. In a way, sincere THANKS to Mr. Zuckerberg and his team for creating Facebook. A chance conversation with an ex-colleague after a decade ended with are you on FB instead of what I thought that he would ask for

The meaning of life is contained in every single expression of life. It is present in the infinity of forms and phenomena that exist in all of creation. ~ Michael Jackson Everything we do is an expression of who we are. One of the hardest things to do is expressing yourself and this is applicable everywhere; be it your personal or professional life. How many times have you said something that just didn't come out the way you wanted it to and you couldn't stop it too; leaving you frenzied muttering "Jeez what's wrong with me".... Why can't I get it out straight..?? How many times have you said something that we really didn't mean and were left with no means to undo the outcome of what you just said and were left to deal with the situation when it could have been well avoided..?? How many times have you had to bear the brunt of your silence when you could have salvaged the situation by expressing yourself..?? There is no point in penting up your