"If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.. "
Firstly, set yourself free; no matter what rules surround you. If you find them tolerable, tolerate them; if you find them too obnoxious, break them. Realize that you're free because you are aware that you alone are morally responsible for everything you do.
With some people you spend time; with others you invest it. Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right kind of people. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights.
Never rely entirely on the stats for most of them are created on the spur of the moment and, also, do not take serendipity seriously till you have vetted it yourself. Just believe in your capabilities and surge ahead. With this kind of attitude; who's going to stop you?
Failure is the hallmark of success. It can be the starting point of a new venture, such as all the pain a butterfly grows through to set itself free from the wings. If we break open the egg shell the wings of that butterfly will never be strong enough to take the flight. Similarly, we need to see failures in life, too, to appreciate the true value of success you've worked for. Try Try Try till you succeed; if not there's always a "U" turn to start all over again in a different direction. It is not the end of life..
The journey leading to excellence is a hard one which calls in for a lot of blood, sweat n' toil; in addition to the many sacrifices in life. But, if your goal is set right and your will and determination are in your control there is not stopping you. It is not a number game as much as it is a mind game. As Melody Rose says it, "There is ample time for you to be who you want to be. Don't allow yourself to settle for less than what you think you deserve. Despite the struggles that you might be facing, never give up on yourself. You're braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and twice as capable as you have ever imagined."
The less you associate and depend on people, the more are your chances of reaching fulfilling your ambition. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person. An important attribute in successful people is their allergic with negative thinking and negative acting people. They are in constant need of positive energy around them to fuel their minds.
"A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the the choices he makes."
As you grow, people around you will change. Some of them even your so-called friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Such people who don't want to help you climb will want you to crawl. They will skew your vision or trash of your dream.
Sometimes you just have to stand alone, only to make sure you still can. Being alone sometimes is not that bad after all. It just helps you identify where you stand in life and this is the most important evaluation which decides on the further courses of action that needs to be taken to reach your destination.
In the end...
It's not your look that counts; it's your OUTLOOK..!!