Friday, June 15, 2012

Living Life Realistically...

As Melody Rose says "The important people in our lives leave imprints. They may stay or go in the physical realm, but they are always there in your heart, because they helped form your heart. There’s no getting over that."

How true is it..?! If you introspect your own life, you'll realise that just a handful people actually fall in the afore mentioned cadre but if you look at your friend's list in FB or for that matter any social networking site they would be anywhere close to 250+ on an average. Do you really know all of them in depths? So which statictics are true? I would say, instead of going by the statistics which is just a random count of numbers based on some absurd formula as a base; it is better to follow your gut instincts though at times serendipity just about manages to throw in the surprise bloomers which act as warm respite. 

As you age, you'll come to realize that pleasing everyone is impossible but pissing everyone off is a piece of a cake. The expectations - fulfillment ratio has tilted off horrendously so much that its not worth a mention. Dealing with it detached and mechanically is the best way out..!!

Being a perfect human being in today's realm is a misnomer. I would say (after I've practiced it over years), adopt the realist approach; do what you're convinced of, spice it up with the values incultated in your system from your childhood, bellicose what needs to be revolted upon and just be YOU. The path is not laden with roses, you'll have to step out of your comfort zone, take the risks, struggle against the odds, attain your goals and realise your self worth for no one can do it for you. Its your LIFE and you're the author of your own book where you write your story in pen. Nothing can be erased from the past but you can only learn from them as experiences in life that help you surge ahead. Live every moment to the fullest for they'll form your memories when you look back at them.

There's always going to be bad stuff out there. But here's the amazing thing; light triumphs darkness, every time. You stick a candle into the dark, but you can't stick the dark into the light.

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Known Unknown

Life's journey is made of many sojourns. While some are big, some are small. This journey is accomplished with many people who come across as travelers in our lives but some last life long. As we grow, we know we need more of such real lasting ones to make our journey more meaningful as life when lived alone often leads to sadness, loneliness and melancholy but when lived in the company of anam cara's often turns out to be joyous as happy times get multiplied and testing times are divided and feel less harsh.

What happens when suddenly in your life, you feel as if you've been hit by a whirlwind and someone known feels like an unknown..?? No matter what you cannot relate with that person now the way you did earlier.

Life comes to a standstill momentarily till you're able to collect yourself and figure out what went wrong in the relation. How did it turn sour? How did the bridges turn into gaps and further into chasms? How come you never saw the storm coming and set your pulse on the visible symptoms? At times, you seek the answers you want which puts your mind at rest and makes it easier for you to move on; while at other times it seems like a black hole. No amount of introspection is going to help for what's occurred has occured and cannot be undone. At best, you can re-categorize this person who though appeared like an anam cara in your life, initially, turned out to be a traveler meant to last only a season and not a lifetime. There are some people who leave you when you no longer serve the purpose of their life and so they leave you mid-way and move on for no fault of yours. In order to live a better life, you've to figure out a way to weed away such people from your life and keep only the real ones.

Remember, the ones who stick with you through life's ups, sides and downs without expecting anything in return are the real people in your life. On a lighter note, life is like a party; as long as the party lasts everyone stays around but very few stay back to clean the mess long after the party is over in the wee hours. These are the real people who will stick around with you. 

Though, it's sad when people you know become people you knew but truth remains that this is a part of life and you've to deal with it. Your life does not end with their moving out of your realm. Like them, you, too, have to learn to "Move On" treating the entire incident as an experience in your life and cherishing the happy memories forever (if you choose to..!!). 

Zendagi Migzara...