Saturday, December 21, 2013

Is Money Everything?

I believe most of us (in our present generation) have realized that we have lost the real meaning of life and live a subservient or non-existent life with money being the controller of our life. Materialistic wants have become our latest obsession in addition to keeping pace with possessing everything that is being invented and marketed without really thinking twice whether we need it or no and to top it, we want to own it before the rest do! What are we trying to achieve by doing so..?? 

We all want to lead a secure life. But it is also important that we know how much are we willing to sacrifice for the comforts that money can buy. While the uphill journey of minting money is an ego booster; the downhill journey is a game changer for it is here that you learn who you really are..!!

Life isn’t about money alone. it is also about the people in your life. But, again, when you've people in your life, you've their responsibilities to cater to and with the responsibilities comes the need to have more money. Oh! What a blessed rigmarole..??!! This is something which we cannot escape but given a timely reality-check and by taking the necessary measures, we can balance it right while walking on the trapeze of life.

Money, like caffeine and cocaine, is addictive..!! 

Money, while it makes us independent also comes with an elixir which gives its owner a feeling that everything can be bought with money. Such is its power that we fail to realize that its addiction is exacting on the sanctity of our relationships with family and friends. If we embark on an endless pursuit of minting money without knowing when is enough, enough, the result would be a catastrophe that cannot be contained. You start feeling you are who you are due to the prowess of money you have and not because what was instilled in you when you were growing up in life. You start trading feelings for stocks to ensure you have a portfolio to boast of and flaunt..!! You feed your ego and move only in the upmarket segment, refusing to connect with people who are not in par with your riches. You start pitying and ignoring them little knowing the truth that these are the very people who are more grounded and lead a happy and better life because their relations are bonded strong and their wants are few. For them money is a means and not the be-all and end-all of life . 

At the sunset of your life, you'll realize that it is not the bank balance that you have but the strong meaningful relationships that will keep you going. It is not about the targets you achieved in your career or the games you played to climb higher up the ladder but it is about the difference you made to the lives you touched. 

To sum it... Do not be a money digger, invest in relations for by doing so happiness and success, both, will find you..!!

Saturday, September 28, 2013

Illusion or Reality..??!!

What kind of world are we living in today..??!!

It is more of illusion with a liberal dose of reality. 

The mind creates a world of illusion. Once this is done, our thoughts change to adapt to this illusion and accept it  but what we forget is that reality resides within us and hence we start experiencing the conflicts that eventually becomes exacting on us. Even though, the  abstraction of illusion is only a fragment of our mind, it has an overpowering control on us since we let it handle, the handle bar of our life. 

The World Wide Web has dwarfed the world. Google has an answer to almost everything. Today, anything and everything is within our possible reach from any corner of the world. Gadgets control our life and seem to extract from all of us, our time and money to such an extent that we, practically, live as an asocial in an e-World today. This world has undoubtedly reconnected us with old friends and relations but it has also limited us from individual bonding. Gone are the days, When we sat to chat with friends on grounds! Now, we chat in chat rooms..!! Meeting in person seems a distant possibility. Same applies to families, too. How many times have we received updates of our near and close ones from social networking sites or emails?  Checked out family function memories on the web. Instead of attending functions like how our parents used to do it with great enthusiasm in days of lore.

Beyond the aforesaid, we also have the self-created pressing need to maintain the same lifestyle as those of our peers/friends/relatives et al. There is no doctrine as such yet we feel a compelling need within us to be on par. True to Rick Warren words “Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.”

Given such a base premise, one might wonder why then are there so many people living an unreal and fake life? Well, it is primarily due to them not being able to sift between illusion and reality and draw the line. They are unable to do it because they never allow their inner self to assert and guide them. These are the very people who don't want to hear the truth because they don't want their illusions to be destroyed. Do not be misled by what you see around you, or be influenced by what you see. You live in a world which is a playground of illusion, full of false paths, false values and false ideals. Let yourself never be a part of such a world.

The only way forward when in conflict of mind is to doubt what you are taught to believe; unlearn what you have learnt and relearn once again. If the realm you live in real then you do not have to maintain a fake appearance. You just to be who you are and enjoy life's little and big things. As Bill Gates, once said "Don't compare yourself with anyone in the world... If you do so, you are insulting yourself."


I, always prefer to be true to myself even at the consequence of being misunderstood or becoming a subject of ridicule for others and embarrassment to self.This negative response doesn't bother me as much as incurring my own abhorrence does  if I do not keep my reality-check intact and deviate to illusion..!!

Saturday, August 24, 2013

Surrender

The word 'Surrender' has many negative connotations equated with defeat, weakness and failure but in its true essence and form it also means "Being One with the Unknown Source" followed by absolute fulfillment. There are 3 choices that is granted to us in our lifetime: Give Up, Give In or Give it your all. If things don't get right, even after exacting yourself by giving it your all then accept the situation. Get into the flow. All along never think of surrendering as giving up. To surrender means to yield, to concede to the way things are and to give way to something else without forcing it to happen our way.  Giving up is entirely different ball game; it means to quit, to stop and to resign yourself to the idea that something is just not going to happen.You're not walking that path again, so, don't look back for all that's to happen with you, lies ahead of you..!!

We are perpetually at WAR with Life in all walks of Life. While living under the umbrella of such paradigm, it must be understood that surrender is an imperative aspect for any real attempt at authenticity and integration. To surrender does not mean that you are weak and unable to face life's crisis and have lost the handle of life. It's not that you no longer care about your life, family, friends. You very much do but with a different approach. In Life, we all experience blankness of mind where you are unable to take any decisions. If you're stuck at one such crossroad and are unable to make a choice; do not give up but do surrender to time and Universe akin and choose to go with the flow of whatever is happening around you instead of letting them cause the turmoil within you. Instinctively, keep walking ahead for you never know what may be waiting for you in the next corner when you’re willing to be unattached to the outcome. 

Paradoxically, there is great sense of freedom and an increased sense of control which one feels when he/she surrenders to the unknown force in the mystics of the Universe as against fighting the obvious that cannot be reigned-in at this point and time. 

Under no circumstances must life be yielded to be controlled by some odd doctrines that do not make any sense. As it is rightly said, one must go with the flow or be the flow. When the latter may seem hideous at times; opting for the former is a clear baby step towards clearing all the voices in your head till you find your bearings that have been marred by circumstances. So, gracefully surrender to the flow of life even if momentarily, accepting things as they are in this moment and are able to move into the next moment from that place of peace/dissonance. Acceptance of this very fact makes all the difference. The rest just fall in place with time.


After having surrendered to the various nadirs of my life; I would sum myself, today, as:
I am in oneness with Nature.
I am the part of flow.
I am the flow.
I AM.


Thursday, April 25, 2013

Words and Silence

Popular belief is that only the spoken Words are heard but if you really want to increase the effectiveness of your voice then Silence is the most powerful tool..!!

As Margaret Weis rightfully says “Words can never fully say what we want them to say, for they fumble, stammer, and break the best porcelain. The best one can hope for is to find along the way someone to share the path, content to walk in silence, for the heart communes best when it does not try to speak.”

More often we expect from the ones who matter to us a lot, to say it in Words what they mean to say just because we want to "hear" them for we believe that these words transform to feelings but in reality it is the profound enigmatic Silence in the company of true love and concern that evokes in us the feelings we so much yearn for. Only after one has used words as a medium and experienced it's limited power is one truly ready to experience and appreciate the unlimited power of silence. It takes a lot of maturity and understanding to realize how intimate a connection we share with Silence deep down in the pure layers of our inner consciousness. It keeps unveiling to us in so many mysterious ways depending upon the circumstances. It is amazing how expressive Silence could be..!!

In our day to day lives, we continuously let heaps of words, seep into us through our five senses and pile up on our brain thereby cluttering it. Some off these we evaluate and react to; others we just eschew. We are designed as such that words touch most of us only superficially and hence the colossal damage in the form of misinterpretation and misunderstandings which have a cascading effect on our lives. It takes only the intellectual DNA's to interpret words for their true meaning and essence.

Au contraire to popular definitions, Silence is not absence of noise it has a realm of it own with a light that can only been seen with the inner eyes. It is present in everyone - its just that most never bother look within. Once connected with this, it helps us handle the most difficult decisions of our lives with a clarity of circumstances and pros n' cons like never before. If you have a gift of the gab, learn to speak only when you have to else adopt silence. Pause when necessary and when you have nothing to say at all, SAY NOTHING. Such approaches will have outlasting impact. Learn to use Silence - It is a powerful tool in many contexts.

Silence is not a sign of weakness or loneliness
it's a powerful weapon of souls with fortitude
it has its own energy, substance n' style
which it bestows on us, by condescending us
by showing us its pristine inner light..!!

Saturday, January 5, 2013

Trust

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in the strength of its bond.

The base premise of every relation is trust. Its easy to begin with trust but maintaining it at the same wavelength calls in for a lot of understanding, daunting unwavering will, continual transparency and unconditional belief. When someone with whom you connect and forge a relation gives you his/her trust, and you accept it, then it is your sacred duty to preserve the sanctity of the relation by not breaking the trust. Again, trust is not a single lane; its a highway and needs to be felt and maintained either side. 

Be wary of whom you choose. Its a melee of people out there and not everyone are genuine. Sift the real from the fraudulent. Some fake people get into a relation and win your trust not because they are fond of you or value you; its just that they are curious to know more about you. Steer clear from such deceitful two-faced people. Its not the worth your time efforts and emotions. When you feel, you've found the right person, don't spill all your beans instantly. Take baby steps; get to know the person better and then only start sharing. After all, you do not want to go through the surge of emotions and heart break that will bring your life to a temporary halt when you realize you counted on an unworthy person and your confession backfired and misused. Time takes a long time to heal and get you to a state where you can move on; so do consider all the factors before you plunge in.

As an end note, all I can say is follow your heart, but be quiet for a while first. Ask questions, then feel and weigh the answer. Learn to trust your heart while you keep your head on your shoulders. Strike a balance between both before you commit. 

Remember always, "Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair."