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"If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.. " Firstly, set yourself free; no matter what rules surround you. If you find them tolerable, tolerate them; if you find them too obnoxious, break them. Realize that you're free because you are aware that you alone are morally responsible for everything you do. With some people you spend time; with others you invest it. Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right kind of people. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. Never rely entirely on the stats for most of them are created on the spur of the moment and, also, do not take serendipity seriously till you have vetted it yourself. Just believe in your capabilities and surge a...

Why is it that a particular ambition or relation or venture or association becomes so mission critical in our life that we cling on it as if it were a life savior and tend to collapse within should the endeavor never take off or goes kaput in between? Why do we let it affect us so much that we fail to recognize the pleasant things that life has to offer us at that point and time and yet choose to wallow in self pity and get warped in it? Momentary withdrawal is understood for it is a part and parcel of human life but why do we take permanent decisions on temporary situations? Always remember, success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. Whenever you're in conflict with anything or anyone in life, there is one factor that can make the difference to sabotaging the situation. That factor is attitude. No matter how far you've gone; you can always turn around. Handle the situation precariously and you've let the situation slip outta your h...

Holding on to the past is like trying to breathe life into a dead body that has already breath its last. It's the pain to revive it even when you know that it's gone and now all that remain are memories of the times spent together. Curtains down, one act of the play is over. The stage is empty temporarily for new and existing characters to take on their role. No one is singled out here. We've all had our share of losses but yet how we handle them is what defines the rest of the course of our life. Not letting go of the past or inability to overcome the past is like being caught in the vortex of the time warp that holds you enmeshed within it but there is no way out unless you wanna remain in the black hole forever or you wanna make an endeavor to step out of it. Its been a year less than a decade since I lost my dad but the mere thought of him or any family moments of get togetherness or any cross roads brings back his flooding memories rife with pain insane. Life...

After having seen a lot of ups and downs in my life with some unusually strange incidents; I had decided to burn all the bridges behind me after I had crossed them as I wanted to move on in life. Keeping the bridges alive felt like being chained to my past. I did not want my past to make me a bitter person. With great difficulty and after a lot of sheer conviction; I took the final call and moved on in life. Sieving the good memories from the chaffed ones brought in freedom from pain and this helped me a lot. Life has been a roller coaster ride and that too a fast paced one off lately but with every passing moment, I am learning the meaning of the finer nuances of life. Earlier, I used to shudder confusing every tiny part to be the whole but not anymore (Half knowledge can be deadly!!). Maybe, that's the role TIME plays in our lives. It brings in with it maturity and an entirely different approach towards life. A recent conversation with a close one sprung back a piece of my ...

Life is all about knowing which bridges to cross and which bridges to burn. In the realm of life’s sojourn where we learn life's lessons - big or small, we either let our wisdom and experience take the decision or leave it to serendipity. The problem is that what we consider major could actually be temporary situations on which we mostly end up taking firm final decisions, when we should not and tend to ignore the ones that actually seek our complete attention. Eventually, both matter in deciding the further course of our life's journey. While we win some, we lose some. The real challenge lies in knowing when to fight and when to walk away. It calls for a realm filled with rationalization, logic and practicality with no room for emotions to decide which are the one's, one needs to fight for and which are the one's you've to let go. We all have our pasts that has left an imprint on us and we hang on to it. Releasing the past is essential and one of the mo...

When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you. Remember that we all live our own lives. We do not live the life of another. For us to reach our pre-ordained destiny and realize our dreams, there will be many critics in life whom we have to put them on "ignore" mode; be it their insults, opinions and judgments - you’ll have to cast them all aside. For if you do not; then it means you are letting them control your life. The outcome is such that you would become so estranged from yourself and feel like the real YOU is trapped inside you screaming to let it out. Do you want to go through such myriad of emotions? NO. So, exclude yourself from all such people who create nothing but instigate you, pollute your mind and create mayhem with a whole lot of drama in your life just to add spice to their entertainment. As Ayn Rand rightfully says " I need no warrant for being, and n...

When you listen to your heart, do not allow your sobriety to waiver when others judge you as FAR from perfect. What truly matters is that where you are headed brings you CLOSER to being yourself. ~ Dodinsky We all started our journey as soon as we were born but this journey within yourself is something you undertake when you've paused to understand the meaning of life and what makes you - YOU. We all know, what we are fleeing from but do we really know what we are in search of..?? If you are taking stock of your life and if you don’t yet feel you are exactly where you want to be, maybe it's time for you to invest in travelling inward. It's disheartening that nowadays we have been acclimatized to look for everything on the outside when truth lies in the fact that all our answers actually resides inside us. More than the mind, it is the heart that will preempt and guide you in this journey of identifying what you are searching for and taking you a step closer ...