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The 3 C's of our life: Circumstances, Choices n' Consequences

No matter the circumstances life presents to you there are always choices. It is when you say you have no choice there no longer will be one.
~ Marty Ness ~

Ever notice how some people go through really tough times and come out enlightened, better and stronger, while others end up embittered, shallow and defeated..?? The difference lies in how they respond to what happens to them; what choices they make in life for in the end it is these very choices that shape their lives.

En route life's journey of all the trials, tribulations, jubilation, surprises, heart-burn and amusement that life offers is; you have to realize that life is roller coaster journey with a mind set of its own. You could face circumstances where you would be at the receiving end of things right, left and center. It could also snow ball if not handled it rightly with efficacy. An ideal way would be to act as a realist and step back to weigh the situation in hand, think through and then make a conscious choice; consequences of which you must be ready to face head on. Not that we are super beings here but there would be times when you would yield to circumstances, too but that again is only due to the choice that you've taken as you're bereft of will to fight back or handle the situation then. There is no point in blaming others for an act of your own doing. Just remember, it is not a permanent state; it is transient and time plays a crucial role here.

The three C's of our life: Circumstances, Choices and Consequences. Off these, circumstances and choices are intertwined such that you cannot give them an order of precedence. What values you choose? What rules of nature you choose to follow and amongst what kind of people and environment you live-in give rise to your circumstances. Where at one end of the coin, you will find circumstances forcing you to make choices bringing you at cross roads where you've to take the call on how you want to link your past to the future in the living present. Future isn't something pre-ordained, it is what you create in the living present. Both scenarios are true and exist within the paradigms of each one of our lives. Consequences are a mere outcome of what choices we make and it is solely unto us to own responsibility for it in entireity. Owning up is a way forward towards living life freely (read guilt and sympathy free) and uninhibitedly.

Every passing moment presents you with a set of circumstances in which to make a choice. Once you make that choice, it leads to another spectrum of circumstances for you to make yet another choice. This pattern will exist as long as you live. You must learn from your past experiences of all the the prior choices you made and the consequences you underwent and apply it along with your present maturity to this new set of circumstances. The idea is to let go of the past. Backspace a little, observe, create your own space, open your mind to new possibilities and horizons, travel the roads less taken, accept challenges, take risks just to stimulate you, awaken and empower the will power within you to realize your goals and dreams. Nothing can stop you from leading a balanced life until "YOU CHOOSE TO GIVE UP!" You'll like your new-found state of contentment and stay rest assured, you would never want it to let it go due to circumstances being against your scheme of things. Why? Simply because such state of being is exhilarating and the sense of freedom n' power akin stands tall above all.

This is how you create and build a life.

It's TIME, you get up n' get real
It's TIME, you define the "I" in "YOU"
It's TIME, you create your own life
It's TIME, you live your life anew..!!


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