We all have many facets of us and en route the journey of life as moments pass us by, we are given various choices that are literally thrown at us and this happens through our lifetime. Why do we let whoever or whatever we feel at that moment as strongest, impede on all the rest..?? Do the rest, do not deserve fair-play? Who is the decider within us who decides this is it when you've to make a choice? If the choice results in happiness; feel content, if not; do not disdain. The choice was yours, alone anyway. So deal with it..!! Going forward, strike a fine balance always whenever you are making the choice. It's an art that needs to be learnt and mastered over time.
We all believe that our ‘individual self’ (at whatever stage of life we are) is who we really are and it is end of the chapter. But, have you ever been open enough to realize that the celestial sphere throws us in a vast expanse where we can exploit our "BEING" that in return helps us in understanding the finer nuances of our life, our personality n' in defining who we really are. But, in this open and shut case world, once the chapter is closed, it's only a rare few who re-open to understand their life and let the "individual" within them evolve to who they truly are and should be. If you understand and accept this principle, you will find it as simple as breathing.
In today's techno savvy - power hungry - money is all that matters world, you will find that everything around you is rampant with chaos. Turn around and all you see everywhere that our lives are rife with one-up man-ship or a mad race where everyone wants to be on par at the same pace just like everyone else. This is how it is, this is how we should be... kind of SUMS IT UP. Is there a master who is controlling these strings? NO. Like a headless chicken, you plunged into it, so, now whether you like it or not, you are a part of this melee. Whether you need - want - desire "it", is immaterial. The price that you have to pay for it is inconsequential. The very simple being that was "YOU", now has multiple layers and is no longer the true self. The reflection you see in the mirror is not of the real "YOU".
End results: Stressed, Tired, Emotionally drained, Over-worked, Unhappy, Depressed, Disturbed, Suffering, Relations-in-mess... the list would go on endlessly. Nothing of this can be eliminated if you continue to live your life as such.
Is this "Who you are?". No."So, duality it is". What is duality? Duality when defined is a component of non-duality which additionally comprises of being everything, something and nothing. Beyond your comprehension or too much to savor, eh? Simply put, use duality to understand who you should not be and create the "YOU"; do not let it destroy you.
Never ever adjust your individuality to match someone else's just because that is how it should be. Has it been embossed and set as a base premise of one's living here? NO. You, alone are the only master of your soul. No one else but you. So... why don't you, just be "YOU".
Step back. Pause. Collect yourself, first..!!
Next, touch up the edges, adjust the tones, blur out the unwanted background, remove the cobwebs from the remote corners of your mind, focus on "YOU" and crop drama, crap n' the mindless race out. They do not deserve a presence in your space. And, you are one of the spaces that connects and fills the dots in this World and completes the Universe.
As Steve Jobs, once succinctly expressed - "Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. Most important, have the courage to follow your courage and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."
Shun the duality - Just be YOU..!!
Grandma E. Moses wisdom on life holds true for each one of us ~
Life is what you make it, always has been, always will be...
P.S: Dedicated to Steve Jobs for had I not come across this quote of your's, I would have never been inspired to touch upon this topic. You made a huge difference in this world, just by being "YOU". My blog stands personified with your presence and contributions to this realm of ours. May your soul Rest In Peace.