Science may have found a cure for most evils: but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all - the apathy of human beings. - Helen Keller
How right are her words..!!
Almost all of our sorrows spring out of our relations with other people. Do we really understand the meaning of true relations? Are we seeking them in the first place? Statistics reveal an alarming increase in divorce across the world, at high frequency where marriages get frizzled out in few days/months. Reason given is incompatibility. But, did you ever give it your full to the relation to make it work? How come our parents and fore fathers generations never faced this problem? Are we, too, demanding in our relations or highly impatient to adjust and adapt and draw conclusions at the drop of a hat? Nowadays, love has become a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money and divorce a matter of course.
In this age where social networking has become prevalent over us; true meaningful relationships and friendship have begun to dwindle at a rapid pace. Personal interactions have become history after being steadfastly replaced by superficial interactions for the heck of it where people flatter those who do not care and ignore those who truly adore and care, thereby dealing a mindless blow to the undeserving. For lack of an occasional expression of love when most needed; a relationship that appeared strong at the seams may begin to wear thin in the middle. Problems in relationship occur when each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person instead of doing a self analysis and finding out what is missing in self. This is the root cause why most of the relations in our lives are turning out to be frivolous. At the end, this just marks the beginning of another bitter end.
The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are. You've got be the real YOU. As Stephen Covey says, "Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships.", its true to the core. Real relationships require trust, commitment, diligent effort and at times self-sacrifice, but the rewards are worth it. Given this premise, you will see that your joys get doubled and your problems halved in right companionship and you will have a realm you will be profoundly happy about. Relationships of every nature have a perpetual need to be nurtured and cared for to survive and thrive the highs and lows of life. In today's stress filled life, space plays a key role. It is important to know when to give space and when to come closer. This is the golden key to any lasting relationship. Never take real relationships lightly or frivolously. Always bear in mind that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. True meaningful relations in today's world is a rarity; so it makes perfect sense to preserve them by putting in our all to it and cherishing every priceless moment of it.
If you know you are playing on someone's emotions just to have a short term fling or to satisfy a personal need in you; do not prey on the innocent ones as it could cause a permanent dent in their mind. Find someone who is like minded and willing to be experimental with you for same but spare the genuine.
All of us here are in pursuit of a sense of belonging and acceptance.To form a meaningful relationship you need to be willing to open yourself up and let someone into your life. Look for someone you can befriend without expectations, where there are no strings attached – you enjoy each others company with some commonality and a striking wavelength; that is enough to begin with. En route try knowing as much as you can about the person to make a decision. This is not for love birds alone; it is applicable to friends and platonic relationships too. If you have someone with whom you can share a meaningful relationship with then be sure to spend some time with them everyday even if it were a few seconds to give a personal connect, keep the communications on along side and stay updated on the happenings in each other's life as this deepens and cements the bond that you share to be an ever lasting one.
As Brian Tracy says “Eighty percent of life's satisfaction comes from meaningful relationships”.
So, what's stopping you from putting in your best and living a content life, eh..??!!
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